What are the most important things in my life?
The answers are normally pretty easy for most. Family, friends, job, pets, are common.
However, sometimes we forget what’s “truly” important when the speed of life’s events blindside us. And suddenly, things that wouldn’t normally be in the top five, get thrust into this list.
For example, a struggle with a co-worker. Maybe you were rear ended in the parking lot. Maybe you have the flu and feel like you will never get over it. Perhaps you want a new car and can’t afford it.
The list is virtually endless. And yet, if we keep our top five list at the forefront of our thoughts when things get tuff, the emotional effects of these moments can be negated. Because in truth, that’s all they are, moments in time. Moments that will pass.
Understanding and managing our emotions on a daily occurrence is optimal to achieving perspective and release from our day to day stressors. You ask, well how do you that? Let’s start simply with the process of self-awareness. What is self-awareness? It is the process of being present, the process of observing/understanding our every behaviour/thought and expression.
Self-awareness is the foundation to emotional intelligence/well being. Self-awareness is the key to developing and understanding our true selves. And as we bring more awareness to ourselves, we become more at peace with who we are, thus being able to proactively manage our thoughts, emotions and behaviour.
Are we important? It’s a funny question. And often an easy answer. “Why Yes! I’m important!”
Yet, depending on how you approach the question, it can be a deep question.
Are we more important than anyone else? And if so, who? Does status or wealth make one more important than someone else? Does the amount of followers one has on social media make them more important?
We all go about our day thinking ‘me’ or ‘I’. But do we actually stop to think about ‘they’ or ‘he’ or ‘she’?
Putting others first is a powerful way of thinking. And a key foundation in the Buddhist teachings.
Buddhists call it – cherishing others. A way to put others before yourself, and not just family or close friends either. It is the way to make all people equal to, or even above yourself.
This may be an easy tweak in one’s daily routine at first, but try expanding it to peers, even strangers. And then try to use it with someone who you consider a difficult person.
If it sounds odd, even unthinkable, perhaps attempt an experiment. Pick a person that may be considered difficult in your life, and cherish them. It could be a compliment, or a phone call after a long absence of conversation. Anything. Just use your mindfulness through action to send love their way. Though you may feel uneasy about it, keep reminding yourself that it is simply an experiment.
Who knows, maybe the Buddhists are right…maybe extending kindness to all living beings will bring us increased happiness. Maybe challenging our old ways can lift us to places we never thought possible.
Try cherishing others more. You may have some fun along the way.
Be kind…Be love…Be more present than you were the day before.
“All doubt, despair, and fear becomes insignificant once the intention of life becomes love.”
As we find ourselves looking ahead in life to the next event or holiday, it is important we remember that being, comes before doing. You cannot be present if looking to the future, nor can you look to the future to prepare yourself for events that have not come to pass. Our false realities and guessing games, (the what if’s), can waste those precious moments of being in the now. Use them as opportunities to practice being present.
Life happens in a flash and we learn this most when there is death or illness, but what if we can cultivate this potential at all times?
We are so lucky to experience this life, and everything that comes with it. So why not start reminding ourselves to live in the moment, and to stop getting caught up with the to do’s, what if’s, what’s next…..
Learning to just “be”, IS being at peace. When you discover and train your mind to just “be” – this is when your needs are met by the universe. This is when the cultivation of me, and life, begins.
Find YOUR peace… Be grounded… Be more present than you were the day before.
“Use your spiritual gifts to shower the world with divine light”
Archangel Gabriel is reminding us this month to pay very close attention to everything in our lives that may impact our energetic vibration. World news, toxic/negative individuals, unhealthy food choices, are just a few notables that can lower our energy. Additionally, seasonal variables such as Halloween (which is just around the corner), are fun times of year, however, indulging in to many sweets can bring us a false sense of grounding.
Being prepared and staying grounded is important. Yet, it doesn’t mean we have to ignore the fun in it all either.
Archangel Michael is affirming this year (2017) as a challenging year. It is a year or self-development/ self-acceptance and standing in our truth. We sometimes push back because self-development can be at times quite uncomfortable. Developing a ritual of grounding and centering your energies before the day will ensure you are anchored in your spiritual center….in the now. You will be less susceptible to reaction or distraction by other energies you encounter throughout your day if you stay true to the now. (See the daily practice section below for a ‘How to’ guide to grounding).
We are however, reminded that there is some relief in 2018. And this periodic heavy/dark/unrelenting energy will shift and get lighter as we approach the new year.
Archangel Michael goes on by saying that for every human action there is a reaction. You are only responsible for your experience. Be mindful of that experience by staying present and not distracting yourself with the ‘chaos’ of the world. Be the best person you can be by bringing awareness/mindfulness to the negative people or events that are happening in or around your life right now. Bring understanding to the lessons behind the manifestation of events, so you can take the path of least resistance.
Be yourself… Be grounded… Be more present than you were the day before.
Sometimes we all tend to get trapped in expecting life to kneel to our wants and desires. However, more times than not, life just doesn’t bend the knee so easily.
So what is required of us when this happens?
Patience. Lots of it.
It’s ok to want things and to dream and to hope. In fact, it’s healthy to think and feel this way, so long as it is positive in nature.
However, it is important to relax our grip on expectation, otherwise it can cause stress and harm our lives.
Allow life to unfurl in its own way, without keeping score or counting the minutes. Just like an Apple that is still attached to the tree, we should allow our positive thoughts and affirmations to ripen naturally.
Stressing over the future, and whether or not our wants will come to fruition will not help. This is because the Apple will fall when its ready…so allow natural forces to work the way they work. Have the patience, positivity and the will to avoid becoming consumed with it.
This way, one can stay present and be able to enjoy what is happening IN THE NOW rather than trying to bend the natural order of things.
So dream, hope and want…but try to release the expectations and control.
Be kind… Be positive… Be more present than you were the day before.
This month is about contemplation. Mindfulness is key to creating change in your life.
Food for thought:
The following are the main reasons a person may self-sabotage.
-Self-sabotage wins when self-criticism prevails
-When the ego takes over, it creates guilt and fear, and thus we are unable to be in a place of love and acceptance.
Learning self-love creates trust and respect for your divine self. Freeing yourself from obstructive ways=freeing yourself from the egotistic thought patterns that one has developed over time, perhaps even generationally.
Ask yourself, does this pattern of thinking serve me? Is it safe to let this pattern go?
If the answer is ‘yes’ and you are ready to let go, take a deep breath and exhale this pattern to the universe, so it can be transmuted into love and light for your highest good.
Keep yourself accountable so you can sustain these changes. And don’t allow yourself to slip into old patterns of behaviour.
It can be that easy guys, don’t over think the process. Just be present. Stay true. Stay focused. Tell yourself you are worth it.
Be safe and have a fabulous long weekend Canada! Happy Canada Day!
Be true… Be focused… Be more present than you were the day before.