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Learning to be at peace

As we find ourselves looking ahead in life to the next event or holiday, it is important we remember that being, comes before doing.  You cannot be present if looking to the future, nor can you look to the future to prepare yourself for events that have not come to pass.  Our false realities and guessing games, (the what if’s), can waste those precious moments of being in the now.  Use them as opportunities to practice being present.

Life happens in a flash and we learn this most when there is death or illness, but what if we can cultivate this potential at all times?

We are so lucky to experience this life, and everything that comes with it. So why not start reminding ourselves to live in the moment, and to stop getting caught up with the to do’s, what if’s, what’s next…..

Learning to just “be”, IS being at peace. When you discover and train your mind to just “be” – this is when your needs are met by the universe. This is when the cultivation of me, and life, begins.

Find YOUR peace… Be grounded… Be more present than you were the day before.


Autumn Insight From The Archangels

Archangel Gabriel is reminding us this month to pay very close attention to everything in our lives that may impact our energetic vibration.  World news, toxic/negative individuals, unhealthy food choices, are just a few notables that can lower our energy. Additionally, seasonal variables such as Halloween (which is just around the corner), are fun times of year, however, indulging in to many sweets can bring us a false sense of grounding.

Being prepared and staying grounded is important. Yet, it doesn’t mean we have to ignore the fun in it all either.

Archangel Michael is affirming this year (2017) as a challenging year.  It is a year or self-development/ self-acceptance and standing in our truth.  We sometimes push back because self-development can be at times quite uncomfortable.  Developing a ritual of grounding and centering your energies before the day will ensure you are anchored in your spiritual center….in the now.  You will be less susceptible to reaction or distraction by other energies you encounter throughout your day if you stay true to the now. (See the daily practice section below for a ‘How to’ guide to grounding).

We are however, reminded that there is some relief in 2018. And this periodic heavy/dark/unrelenting energy will shift and get lighter as we approach the new year.

Archangel Michael goes on by saying that for every human action there is a reaction.  You are only responsible for your experience.  Be mindful of that experience by staying present and not distracting yourself with the ‘chaos’ of the world.  Be the best person you can be by bringing awareness/mindfulness to the negative people or events that are happening in or around your life right now.  Bring understanding to the lessons behind the manifestation of events, so you can take the path of least resistance.

Be yourself… Be grounded… Be more present than you were the day before.


Letting go of expectation

Sometimes we all tend to get trapped in expecting life to kneel to our wants and desires. However, more times than not, life just doesn’t bend the knee so easily.

So what is required of us when this happens?

Patience. Lots of it.

It’s ok to want things and to dream and to hope. In fact, it’s healthy to think and feel this way, so long as it is positive in nature.

However, it is important to relax our grip on expectation, otherwise it can cause stress and harm our lives.

Allow life to unfurl in its own way, without keeping score or counting the minutes. Just like an Apple that is still attached to the tree, we should allow our positive thoughts and affirmations to ripen naturally.

Stressing over the future, and whether or not our wants will come to fruition will not help. This is because the Apple will fall when its ready…so allow natural forces to work the way they work. Have the patience, positivity and the will to avoid becoming consumed with it.

This way, one can stay present and be able to enjoy what is happening IN THE NOW rather than trying to bend the natural order of things.

So dream, hope and want…but try to release the expectations and control.


Be kind… Be positive… Be more present than you were the day before.

The Month Of Contemplation

This month is about contemplation.  Mindfulness is key to creating change in your life.

Food for thought:

The following are the main reasons a person may self-sabotage.

-Self-sabotage wins when self-criticism prevails

-When the ego takes over, it creates guilt and fear, and thus we are unable to be in a place of love and acceptance.

Learning self-love creates trust and respect for your divine self.  Freeing yourself from obstructive ways=freeing yourself from the egotistic thought patterns that one has developed over time, perhaps even generationally.

Ask yourself, does this pattern of thinking serve me? Is it safe to let this pattern go?

If the answer is ‘yes’ and you are ready to let go, take a deep breath and exhale this pattern to the universe, so it can be transmuted into love and light for your highest good.

Keep yourself accountable so you can sustain these changes. And don’t allow yourself to slip into old patterns of behaviour.

It can be that easy guys, don’t over think the process.  Just be present. Stay true. Stay focused. Tell yourself you are worth it.

Be safe and have a fabulous long weekend Canada!  Happy Canada Day!

Be true… Be focused… Be more present than you were the day before.

Our Thoughts-The Power is in you

Be patient with yourself today…

Thoughts have power, they shape us throughout our lives. Without them, we wouldn’t be the complex individuals that we are.

Thousands of thoughts pass through us each day, some holding more weight than others. And the more a person invests in a thought, the more it sticks and becomes part of us.

However, holding onto a particular thought for too long, especially if its origin carries negative sentiment, can be distracting and even damaging.

This is why it’s important to learn how to detect a negative, potentially lasting thought, and deal with it before it spreads its roots.

It is widely known that negative thoughts can, and usually do rob us of an otherwise productive, healthy mindset. This is a slippery slope that has the potential to ruin days, sometimes weeks.

We are born into this world as positive beings, so this negative learning pattern is a learned trait that we pick up over the course of our lives. Sometimes it spawns suddenly, from a tragic event. And sometimes it slowly spreads as a result of a difficult upbringing and/or circumstances.

Despite this, we have an opportunity to change this ‘faulty thinking’, with the right tuning.

1. It starts with you. Know that you can change. And tell yourself that you will change. Opening the door to this idea is like giving yourself permission to alter your mind, sight and can be very empowering.

2. Let go of control. You can’t control other people, and you won’t always have an influence on circumstances and/or situations that arise.

3. Learn to control yourself. We have the ability to harness and shape what’s going on inside us. A reaction can be much more powerful than the situation ever was. So be mindful of that when you’re weighing up a response.

4. Time. Most things take time to change. Sometimes this gets lost is the fast paced world we live in. But give yourself some time, and be patient with yourself along the way.

Be patient with yourself… Be yourself… Be more present than you were the day before.

Our Delicate Dance With Balance And Harmony

Harmony and Balance do not occur in the absence of hardship. True peace is attainable when you learn to calm your thoughts in the midst of adversity. Unfortunately, it is one of the hardest lessons to master, and yet, one of the most important lessons to learn.

In a perfect world, we would have been taught this most important of abilities as children. However, all too often we have to learn this ability on the winding road of adult development.

We all are faced with conflict throughout the course of the human experience, and that is a fact of life. Sometimes it is with another, or with yourself, and sometimes it is illness.

But whatever the conflict, we can use the same methods to ward off fear, anxiety, anger and overall world wariness we all feel at times.


You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.” ~Buddha


Early riser – Many of the great artists, designers and thinkers of the world wake up before most. After a night of sleep, most people’s brains are at their most creative and peaceful. Use this time to pick up a pen and paper and write down your thoughts. Let the words flow organically. If stuck, look outside, spend time in your garden, or take an early morning walk, (preferably in a place where there are trees).

Fill your brain with peaceful thoughts before you let anything else in – Many people enjoy reading the teachings of Buddha to remind themselves of the importance of maintaining a peaceful state of mind. Or perhaps flip through the pages of your favorite author, or a magazine that inspires. (I enjoy design magazines and their creative verve).

Seek others – What are others doing that may work for you? Like recipes, it never hurts to try something new!

Share – Based on your level of comfort, share your thoughts with those whom you trust. Sometimes we write what we cannot say. This is a powerful tool not to be discounted.

Silence and noise – Most people need both in their lives. Silence can bring inner peace and calm just by blocking out your surrounds and listening to the breaths travel in and out of your body. Even a minute of this a day has the ability to give your body and mind a break, and keep you in rhythm. Noise on the other hand can be anything from listening to your favorite music, or hosting a social gathering. Noise is another way to find body and mind rhythm on a different level, so long that you are listening to music you enjoy, and surrounded by people who love you.


Nothing is permanent. Everything is subject to change. Being is always becoming.” ~Buddha


It is important to note – methods that worked one day, may not work the day after. We live in an ever-changing world, and therefore must be patient and flexible in our journey to find calm.

Always remember to go easy on yourself, because you deserve all the benefits of balance and harmony.


Be you.  Find balance.  Be more present than you were the day before.